Sunday, July 3, 2011

Visiting Bob

Last Monday when I went to see Bob, at one point he said to me, "Would you mind if I ask you what your name is?" When I said Nancy, he nodded. That made me decide to tell him who I am each time I go visit. Just a quick, "Hi, Bob. I'm Nancy, here to see you."

So yesterday when I went, I gave him a hug and identified myself. (By the way, there are two Nancy's who work at GV which caused a bit of confusion during Bob's early weeks.) He said, "But you're not my Nancy. I don't know where she is."

I assured him that I was his Nancy. His smile broke my heart. He said he thought I'd gotten angry about taking care of him and he would never see me again. He was soooo happy.

I am reminded how dangerous assumptions are, most especially in our significant relationships. We can't go backwards so we should be sure we move forward in a way that won't leave us with regrets.
Go visit someone important to you today.

1 comment:

  1. Gosh--what a heart breaking visit that must have been for you. Even when I think I get it, I don't.